Today was my ski day with all 6 kids! At the rental counter, the young girl
helping asked me, "Do you have any advice on motherhood for someone who just found out she's pregnant?"
Surprised by the question, I must have looked at her strangely, but she
quickly continued, "That person is me... I'm 13 weeks pregnant."
I congratulated her and gave her the best advice I
could think of at that moment. I really didn't know what to tell her.
How do you sum up everything in just a quick answer?
Motherhood is my life! I pray daily to be a better mother.
I homeschool all my children, so that means that I have a LOT of influence
on how they respond to the world. That is a very scary thought to
me!!
What if I don't teach them enough? What if they don't get into a good college? What if they can't ever get a good job? What if... what if... what if...
I put a lot pressure on myself as the teacher
for their math, reading, writing, spelling, geography, English, Spanish, typing, science, social studies, piano,
trumpet, guitar, drums, cooking, cleaning, sewing, physical fitness, and of
course for their spiritual well-being.
I want them to be the very best
they can be; but there is so much to teach them and so many things of great value that there just isn't enough time to teach it all before they're on their own!!
Despite all my good intentions, God opened my eyes on the ski slopes today.
He started with my cute little Jordan, my 7 yr. old. Jordan reached the bottom of the hill after his first ski run of the day and shouted excitedly, "Mommy!! I prayed that I wouldn't fall,
and I didn't!!" He fell a lot later on; but on that first run, he
knew God had answered his prayers. His excitement was so great, I couldn't help but smile.
Then, a few moments later, a really sweet, older
gentleman-probably in his late 70's- approached me and asked, "Would you
mind if I took a picture of your ski family?" "SURE!" I
said. The older kids were just sliding in, and we all posed for his
camera. I decided to have him take a picture with my camera too!
A little while later, the same older gentleman
approached me again and said, "I just love watching that older brother
help his younger sister."
I looked up and saw that Tyson was helping Mariah
back up onto her skis after a big fall. The moment he would help her up, her
legs would split and she would collapse again. He helped her like this several
times. I suddenly saw these children in an even brighter light; they were interacting with so much love... and lots of giggles.
Then, this same older gentleman approached me a
third time and asked, "Are you a Jesus follower?"
I just about burst into tears and exclaimed,
"Oh yes I am!"
He responded so sweetly with his hands towards the
sky and said, "Oh I knew it! I could just tell. Praise
God!"
That was the last time I saw this sweet gentleman. He will never
know that he was an answer to my prayers... my miracle. He will never know that those
were the exact words I needed to hear. I knew at that moment that Jesus had sent him to remind me that the most important part of being a mother was about teaching them to love.
What joy filled my heart that he could see the love in our family.
Maybe I'll get a second chance to answer that young girl's question about motherhood. This time my answer would be clear and certain...
Teach your child to love. The message of love is the message of Jesus.
While all those other subjects I'm teaching my children are very important; if they truly know how to love, they will have the passion necessary to do great things wherever they are.
I wish there could be a "like" button on all your posts, because I would click on it every time!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for reading my posts and sharing how you feel!!!!!:)
ReplyDeleteI enjoy so much your posts. They have been inspirational to me. I am a mother of 4 (ages 15, 13, 10 and 2) and I struggle all the time with knowing how to raise them well. My son (13) asked me yesterday about rap and if it is poetry. After a brief comment from me, he asked if I would mind if he was a rapper. I said, "No matter what career path you choose, remember that you represent this family and you represent the priesthood and you represent the Savior, so if you choose to be a rapper I will expect you to abide by the standards of Christ and this family." He nodded in understanding and a few minutes later he said, "I could never be a rapper, I don't think they feel the Spirit. I'll be a professional soccer player and I promise to pray before each game." LOL
ReplyDeleteThanks again for your example.
Shayla, thank you for sharing your story about your son!!! What a cool kid!! My husband and I got a kick out of his response. Actually, my husband made up a rap about Noah several years ago for a seminary class. Several years after that, he auditioned for a Christmas play in Las Vegas. The director asked him if he would rap something for them as part of the audition. He did his Noah rap. Apparently, my husband was the only one that rapped without using swear words, so he got the part.:) Tell your son we think he's awesome and that we'll watch for his professional soccer career.
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Shayla, I enjoyed reading several of your stories on your blog. I love the way you think:) I was touched by your hero husband. Thank you for sharing! Keep writing!!
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